I almost opened a fresh can of kickass, when I read that I've seen WAY too many "Noob Mastas" in SL, who basically decided that since they wear trousers, and once slapped a drunk chick, in the cab of their pickup on the way home from the Roadhouse, for spitting instead of swallowing Rule 1: Subs drive the scene Many "Noob Mastas" are completely wrong. The sub is already trying Better Adult Dating Wichita good pussy "be themselves" by being a sub in SL.
So she came to Sapello NM sex dating hangout, spotted a sub, new a couple of weeks old, grabs the public leash and away they go. Two days later the sub comes back, woeful and angry, because the Domme wasnt't a domme at all, just a clueless ,worthless, para-rp trash vanilla, who had decided that their "character" would be a domme, and that meant ignoring limits, and basically acting like a bloody serial killing sociopath in Wives want nsa Lund only of courseand who, wwhen the sub called an occ timeout and explained that their LIMITSA about no males, no death or mutilation etc, were HARD limits, the RP-Trash simply did not understand that Subs in SL are not automatically "roleplayed game characters", that the subs are just "being themselves".
Consensual BDSM is a "game" the game is "I will pretend to make you do what you want to do, and you will pretend to not want me to do that".
BDSM isn't about interrogation camp psychological warfare U will respect mah trousers or I Mahaska-KS sex personals ur nipples to ur knees" Remember Rule 1.